Soul Journey Guidance

Alan Watts once said something that has stayed with me for years: Before you can truly help someone heal, you must first ask them if they are willing to give up what is keeping them sick. At first, it seems almost obvious of course, healing requires willingness, right? But the deeper you dive, the more profound this truth becomes, especially for those of us who guide, nurture, and support others on their journeys.

As empaths, healers, and energy workers, it’s easy to feel the pull to “fix” what is broken. We see the pain, the struggle, the soul screaming beneath the surface. Our hearts ache, and our instinct is to pour everything we have love, energy, light into another being, hoping to lift them from their suffering. But no matter how much we give, there is a limit. Healing cannot be forced. Transformation cannot occur without choice.

The Power of Asking

Asking someone if they are willing to let go of what keeps them sick is more than a practical question it’s a profound acknowledgment of their sovereignty. Their resistance, their fear, their attachments, even their self-sabotage, are part of a story they have been holding. Until they are ready to release it, no amount of energy work, guidance, or intention can bypass their inner reluctance.

This is a hard truth for healers because we naturally want to alleviate suffering. We want to see progress, growth, relief. But the most important thing we can offer someone is space—space to confront their own patterns, space to recognize what is keeping them from thriving, and space to make the choice to release it when they are truly ready.

Planting Seeds, Not Forcing Blossoms

Think of healing like gardening. We can water the soil, plant the seeds, and shine sunlight on the roots, but we cannot force a flower to bloom. The person we are helping is the soil, the seed, and the gardener of their own transformation. We are simply the light that helps them see what is possible.

Let me share a few examples:

• Greta, a longtime client, came to me struggling with chronic anxiety. For months, she resisted letting go of certain thought patterns, even though they were causing physical tension and stress. Through gentle sessions, energy work, and guided self-reflection, I was able to help her notice these patterns without trying to force change. Months later, she made the conscious choice to release her fear of failure—and the shift was profound. Her energy, her posture, and her confidence blossomed.
• Another client, Marco, was holding onto old habits that kept him in cycles of fatigue and frustration. His soul was ready, but his mind clung to comfort zones. By planting small “seeds” of awareness in each session and providing practical tools, he began noticing moments where he could make different choices. The transformation came only when he decided to step fully into those choices, and the results were lasting.

When a client, friend, or loved one is not ready, the act of attempting to “heal” them for them can do more harm than good. It can foster dependence, frustration, and even resistance. By contrast, holding space and offering guidance allows them to step into their own power when the time is right. Their soul will respond to their readiness, not our urgency.

Why This Matters for Empaths and Healers

For those of us who feel deeply, this principle is a safeguard as much as a lesson. Without boundaries and awareness, we risk burnout, depletion, and emotional entanglement. Recognizing that we cannot control someone else’s willingness is liberating—it allows us to focus on the work we can do, and to honor the sacred timing of another’s journey.

The truth is, healing is as much about patience and presence as it is about technique or intention. Our role is not to “fix” others, but to plant seeds, guide gently, and honor the process. And when someone finally chooses to release what has been keeping them sick, we are there to witness the blossoming—a flowering of soul, spirit, and body that was always waiting for the right moment.

Healing is Invitation, Not Imposition

Ultimately, healing is never forced. It is invited. It is chosen. And the most powerful healers are those who understand that their role is to illuminate the path, not carry the traveler. When a person consciously decides to let go of what no longer serves them, real transformation happens—and it is beautiful, lasting, and entirely their own.

For those of us who guide others in the 3-D realm while honoring the higher wisdom of the soul, this is the dance: patience, presence, and profound respect for the choice to heal.

💫 True healing begins with willingness. Ask, wait, and watch the seeds grow.

With love and light,

Christina

Soul Journey Guidance