Soul Journey Guidance

Just watched this video of a man talking about love and it really resonated with me. Society often tells us that love should be “mirrored” — that the way I love you is the way you should love me. But real love? It’s not about fitting someone into your own expectations or comfort zone. Real love is about learning to truly see each other, listen deeply, and grow together in ways that honor each other’s unique needs and ways of receiving affection.

Have you ever really looked at someone to see how they want to be loved? To notice how they are receptive, how they best receive love, and how they feel most seen and appreciated? To consider them fully, as they are, while also finding someone who considers you in the same way? That’s where mutual respect and understanding start to bloom.

It is our job to be considerate and open to the people we say we love—to see them for who they are and to love them in the ways they need and want, even if it feels uncomfortable to us because it’s not our love language. Maybe someone you love needs a hug, but hugs aren’t your natural thing. Truly loving them might mean giving a hug anyway, simply to meet them where they are. Or perhaps someone you care for gives so much to others and rarely takes time for themselves. Loving them could mean gifting them a little space, offering a kind gesture, or doing something that allows them to feel seen and nurtured.

True connection happens when I love you the way you need to be loved, and you love me the way I need to be loved—not the way we think love should look. That’s where understanding, patience, and real intimacy live.

To help you connect more deeply with the people you love, here are five love languages and examples:

1. Words of Affirmation – Compliments, verbal encouragement, or expressing appreciation. Example: “I really appreciate how hard you worked today.”
2. Acts of Service – Doing something kind or helpful for someone. Example: Preparing a meal or helping with a task without being asked.
3. Receiving Gifts – Thoughtful presents that show someone is seen and remembered. Example: Bringing their favorite snack or a small meaningful item.
4. Quality Time – Focused, undistracted time together. Example: Sitting down for a conversation or enjoying an activity together without phones.
5. Physical Touch – Hugs, hand-holding, or other comforting touch. Example: A warm hug after a long day or holding hands while walking.

Want to explore your love language and your partner’s more? Click here to take the quiz and learn more.