Soul Journey Guidance

Tapping into her 

Today one of my clients excitedly informed me they took heed of some advice I offered. His eyes were just beaming and his energy seemed lighter and much brighter. He said, Christina, I had an amazing weekend and am so rejuvenated and relaxed. I had no idea what he was speaking about till he said he tried the Yoni massage! 

I was so excited like a little girl dancing about waiting for ice cream or bubbles. This was such exciting news for me! I know that when we take time to apply something for someone else that isnt all about us the outcome mostly is a great return. So when I heard those words I gave the yoni massage a try, I knew why he felt so good.

I feel You have to step away from your ego and greed when doing anything when you want a great outcome. Step into love and offer more than just the physical. 

Moving on now.

  Yes, we skipped over the more in-depth details. Come on you dirty-minded readers. Lol. They can keep all the mushy gushy details for themselves. 

 I’m speaking about the outcome and how both parties felt after the words. 

 How and why did this come about? Last week we spoke about his energy and how he is so busy with life, being a single father. Working and starting up a business and how it has really taken a toll, plus he attends the gym. Even though these are great and I am proud of him for doing all of this, I fully understand what he meant when he said he just didn’t have the energy to give to his partner in the bedroom. 

He expressed how he has started to feel bad when she would show interest and how he would be off putting due to the low energy.

See, When we are in our singleness and we grind we don’t have to worry too much about giving extra energy to another person. We take all the left over energy and apple it to ourselves. This is how we are able to keep moving forward on our goals and building our own foundation in life

However when we do meet someone we wish to build with. We have to make time for them. That is also energy exchange. This can be tiresome when we are not use to this. As we have yet to learn to balance out how to give without depleting ourselves even more. 

What am I talking about? Okay, here it is. I offered him a sliver of information to read and look into. I told him this could be one step into offering her something she needs ( connection with him and tapping into her sexual energy) while also offering him something as well. 

What is it you are asking? The Yoni Massage! But first, let’s tell you this, Yoni massage is a part of a style of Tantric. YES! Remember Tantra isnt all about about SEX! NO! It goes way deeper than the good ole plunge and release. 

The Sanskrit word ‘Tantra’ derives from the verbal root tan, meaning ‘to weave’, or ‘compose’, and refers to a type of instructional text, often written as a dialogue between a god and a goddess. 

Tantra is one of many paths that offer us a way to become whole again. To align ourselves entirely, to have our energy and our intention move in one single direction so that we no longer create obstacles to our fulfillment so that we can be the most integral version of ourselves.

I know your head is probably spinning right now. Like what? Yoni what? Well, let’s get into it just a bit. And if it does interest you I would highly suggest learning more and giving this a try. 

So what is a Yoni massage and how does it benefit our Goddess in the long run. How can this act give partners a deeper connection? 

yoni is a powerhouse and the home where a potent, latent energy dwells. Because most modern-day women are unfamiliar with tantric practices, this energy lays dormant and stagnant as mere untapped potential.

It is important to understand that Tantric Yoni Massage is just one part of a whole-body experience. We don’t just go straight to the Yoni and massage. We take our time to love the full body first and allow her to step out of the head and tap into her energy. 

Allowing herself to be open to receiving such a gift of love and attention. This is done by massaging the whole body, from head to toe, in a precise way and by incorporating energy into the practice. There is also breath work added to assist in harnessing the energy and feeling every little part. 

Massage fosters a deeper connection with your body and can enhance sexual well-being, increase libido, and improve orgasms, heighten sensual pleasure and self-awareness. It helps you become more attuned to your body’s sensations and needs.

My client was intrigued nonetheless. So I sent him a few articles to read about the yoni how to massage it and the benefits it has for both parties. Yes even though I told him about it  I feel we need to read firsthand. Sometimes just someone saying do this isn’t enough. Like myself, I like to learn the whys and hows and then apply this new wave of information.

After his lovely weekend, He informed me that it was so therapeutic for him. Let’s remember he was having energy struggles and wanted to learn how to give to his partner without fully giving to her physically when he was so depleted. He wanted to allow her to feel close to him and build this bond in the the sexual energy. 

He said she was so pleased with this message. Felt relaxed and more connected to him. This was such a great result and I really loved his willingness to learn something new not just for himself however for her as well. 

It’s as he said. We are trying to build a foundation that will be long lasting. To some sexual connection isn’t huge in their partnership. However to others its a form of showing one another they care and love them through a physical and spiritual act.

What I loved is these two communicated what they needed and it bult another layer on the foundation.

If two people can’t find ways to communicate their needs and wants and try to apply different strategies then after a while the relationship will become dual and start to crumble. 

You can have many relationships in your life and with each connection there needs to be communication with reciprocal energy. An understanding if you will. 

In a romantic partnership, you have the sexual aspect, this connection is to bring both parties closer together on a physical and spiritual level. You are one another’s battery rejuvinator! 

With that being said if there isn’t any connection and there is a disconnect then the frustration builds and someone may step out. 

No one wants this. From my years of experience in relationships and at one time being married this can happen to either partner. 

As we grow and heal our traumas and issues we each come to the table with. We have to be open to communicating, exploring sexuality, and what we want and don’t want. At the end of the day, we have to take steps to keep things in balance. Keep it flowing and growing all at the same time. 

If we are unhappy then it needs to be addressed and spoken about—action steps and goals on how to create change. Each party needs to be open to this and do as well. That’s how we grow!

In any partnership, we need to play, frolic, and take time to communicate yet in clear language. We need to build together and that even means in the bedroom. It doesn’t mean just to have sex. You could! But wouldn’t you rather have an out of this world, spiritual and physical event that allows a deeper connection with your partner?

What I am saying is to take the time to tap into yourself, and your sexual energy through solo massage and breath work and then apply this with your partner. 

Touch one another softly and gently. Listen to each other heartbeat. Listen to their breath. Hear the body. Listen to the needs of the soul and the physicall as well as the mental state of mind.

Then take time to tap into the soul’s energy. Feel the light that fills each body.

 How does it feel? 

It is light or heavy. 

Sad or happy. 

What does it need? 

Update: My client informed me after the night with his partner and sharing the energy with her with out giving himself physically he said he got to thinking that he needs to change a few things in his life.

Meaning, he said that with all this energy he puts in at the gym or work or his business, he could take some time from those activities to focus on organizing his energy better so then he could allow more of it to be placed in the bedroom with his partner. His goal is to build a foundation where they both can grow and build something amazing and if he doesn’t change a few things in his life it could all crumble. 

To some sex is just sex and energy is what turns the lights on in the house. However sex is like you recharging your cell phone battery. Remember you are a light being. Your soul needs to be charged.

With the wrong person you can deplete all your energy and then walk away with attachments you didn’t need or want. With the right person, you can recharge yourself and them while building an amazing life. It doesn’t have to be the ole roll over and get one off kind of sex. It can be a very enriching session you both will enjoy.  

Think of it like this. The yoni massage is to bring her pleasure and to tap into her energy without you depleting your energy on the physical. However, it is also recharging you energetically.

 Allowing the time and space for your lover/ partner to feel something greater than the act of being fucked and or plowed. SO as I always say, frolic and be happy in your journey. 

As we continue along this soul journey together, 

I’m Christina your Soul Mentor